Raw Thoughts.

I got a friend who says that your “past is your power.”

It was Jordon Peterson, who said that you should, “To stand up straight with your shoulders back is to accept the terrible responsibility of life, with eyes wide open.”

Guess what? Life is going to suck sometimes.

Sometimes you let yourself get away and all of a sudden the downward spiral gets you in a funk and you become a fraction of the person you should be.

So what do you do, you panic. You ask what is happening to me, then you try harder to get yourself out of the hole only to start digging it deeper.

You stop doing the things you love. You stop trying to make your footprint in the world. You stop going hard at the gym to make progress. You stop doing the things that make you an amazing freaking person.

All of a sudden your boss fires you because you suck at work, your friends leave you because you suck at being a friend, your girlfriend leaves you because you weren’t passing her tests and being a beta or you weren’t being a woman that he would want to be with.

Then you go on to blame life. You say, “oh well this happened and so it was not my fault.” Don’t say, “well I can never do that again.”

SCREW THAT.

Whether it is you fell out of shape, your relationship sucks or is over, or even something as simple as your room being overly messy. If the action happens to you, then it is all your fault.

Don’t blame society that you are sucking, don’t blame the circumstances that you are sucking, take a hard look in the mirror and blame nothing but yourself if you have failed something important in life.

Anything that you have direct control over is one hundred percent your responsibility. That means being a good partner that is attractive and confident, that means cleaning up your room when you were the one that made it dirty, that means taking action on the goals you set for yourself in life and going out and actually doing something, that means controlling your emotions, it means recognizing where you have messed up and fix yourself unless you want to let it consume you. When you let in comfort, you let in destruction, when you aren’t getting better, you are only getting worse.

That is why your past is your power, because it is your completely honest textbook on how to be successful and happy.

If you choose not to learn from it and take action, then you choose to fail yourself. You choose to prove the world right about you. Your boss feels good about firing you. Your ex thanks the Lord that they dodged that bullet. Those people who thought you were lame, they end up being right.

Now don’t be down on yourself for receiving this harsh lesson. When reality smacks you in the face, use it as your weapon. How do you use it as a weapon? By learning from it, growing up, and moving on with your life.

Sorry to say it, but there is no rewind button like in the movie Click. You got to buck up and accept what happened, forgive yourself for screwing up, and forgive the action (or lack there of) that caused it all. Then you sack up, and prove to the world why are better than that.

Once you do that, the momentum slowly starts building up again. You stop feeling sorry for yourself, and you start looking forward with life. When you look forward, things start to happen. You start freely giving yourself the validation that you are truly worthy, you start to regain that confidence, you start to act like the person you really are again.

Everything in life is a test, and we are knocked down, the tests become even more magnified.

It is solely up to you to pass. It is solely up to you to pick up the shattered pieces of your temporary self and accept the fact that all you can do now is put them back together and more forward with things.

It is okay to mess up in life, we all fall from our heights. Our climb is much more important than our fall.

How those falls don’t kill you is pretty simple, catch yourself. Have the confidence to say, “you know what I know my worth and its sky high!” Have the confidence to say, “I am valuable and I know it!” Unapologetically take that attitude towards the world.

That is why you past is your power. It is the ultimate test to show what you are truly made of. So love it, embrace it, and accept it for it’s radiating beauty.

Thank your loved ones today, and happy Thanksgiving. Still can't believe it looks like this outside :O.